When the young Christian singles approach marriage, they should first of all decide for themselves, whether their prospective partner is supposed to adhere the bible principles of a marriage or not. It includes monogamy, absolute fidelity and constancy. Then christian singles should have a clear idea what a Christian marriage is: it is the relations between two people, only two people a life-long term and this is the only thing that matters. Then you should find out if your bride or your fiancé adheres the main principles of Chistanity. It cannot be found out just having asked a question. It is extremely easy to say: "Certainly, darling, I believe in it". But whether she or he really trusts in it - God knows. Is this feeling really deep or not? Do both of you believe that it is a real feeling and this marriage will last all your life? When you stand together before the preacher and swear in your fidelity, say that you are going to keep yourselves only for each other till death separates you, you should be both absolutely convinced in what you are doing. This is a very important component of a christian singles marriage.
It includes the christian understanding of marriage. Recently I faced a young couple entering marriage relations. In the middle of the ceremony I addressed the young man and said : "Don, do you believe in Jesus Christ, our Savior?" He said: "Yes, I believe". I addressed to the young person and asked: "Janet, do you believe in Jesus Christ, our Savior?" She said: "Yes". It is a good starting point for a christian marriage. Christian singles should have a general belief in Jesus Christ. But this is far from being all! Once a young man asked John Wesley to express his opinion of the bride. Wesley advised him not to marry. "Why?" - the young man said, - "You see, she is one of the Christian singles". Wesley answered: "Yes, but there are christians with whom God can get on only!". Lincoln once said: "Love - is blind, but the marriage has perfectly opened eyes!